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My daughter just turned one recently. Should I plan for my second child now?

Ms Marina Yap says:
There is no right or wrong time for a second child but here are some factors that you may need to consider:
  • Age - Your age and fertility are inversely related. In other words, the older you are, the less fertile you get. After age of 35 years, women’s fertility rates fall significantly.
  • Changing lifestyle - Do you have the time and energy? Do you have the physical and emotional energy necessary to care for 2 very young children? How are your childcare support system and resources like?
  • Health - It is important to recover completely after your first baby, before your body prepares to hold second baby. You need to keep your body as healthy as you can.
  • Financial situation - Additional child requires extra costs. Need to work out the finances. Also, would you be able to work full-time after having 2 children?
  • Ask self why you want another child - If it is something that both you and your husband want, go for it. The decision must come from the 2 people who know the situation best, and who will have to share the day-to-day realities of another child. Ensure that the decision does not come from pressures by people around (e.g., parents, in-laws, friends etc).
  • Relook at your marriage - Before deciding on another baby, think about how your marriage has changed since having your first. Because the time and commitment required to take care of a child takes away from time to maintain a marriage, it is important to come up with a plan of how you will be able to spend time with your spouse and make your relationship a priority.

Ms Marina Yap is a registered clinical psychologist with Centre for Effective Living.

 

 
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Snippet of the day

My daughter just turned one recently. Should I plan for my second child now?

Ms Marina Yap says:
There is no right or wrong time for a second child but here are some factors that you may need to consider:
  • Age - Your age and fertility are inversely related. In other words, the older you are, the less fertile you get. After age of 35 years, women’s fertility rates fall significantly.
  • Changing lifestyle - Do you have the time and energy? Do you have the physical and emotional energy necessary to care for 2 very young children? How are your childcare support system and resources like?
  • Health - It is important to recover completely after your first baby, before your body prepares to hold second baby. You need to keep your body as healthy as you can.
  • Financial situation - Additional child requires extra costs. Need to work out the finances. Also, would you be able to work full-time after having 2 children?
  • Ask self why you want another child - If it is something that both you and your husband want, go for it. The decision must come from the 2 people who know the situation best, and who will have to share the day-to-day realities of another child. Ensure that the decision does not come from pressures by people around (e.g., parents, in-laws, friends etc).
  • Relook at your marriage - Before deciding on another baby, think about how your marriage has changed since having your first. Because the time and commitment required to take care of a child takes away from time to maintain a marriage, it is important to come up with a plan of how you will be able to spend time with your spouse and make your relationship a priority.

Ms Marina Yap is a registered clinical psychologist with Centre for Effective Living.

 

 

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Have a funny video of your child? Why not share the joy and stand a chance to win $120 worth of shopping vouchers and be featured in our ILC Singapore Funniest Kids video!

 

 

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