2 February 2021, by Nicholas Quek

Dating For The First Time

I was a single pringle when I first started blogging for I Love Children and about the same time last year, I blogged about ‘Why am I not dating’.

Until today. Alas, the time has come, for the first time in my life – I have a girlfriend!

Dramatic as it might sound, the way we met was rather mundane. We were in the same breakout room through an online Zoom event back in May 2020, and only started texting each other in July, when we both stayed up late to watch the results of the election! We like to say that we have COVID-19 and the government to thank for our relationship.

I wish I had more tips on getting attached, but the truth is, neither of us was intentionally looking for romance. The only advice I can offer is, there are some things you just can’t plan for, so when they come your way, don’t brush them aside!

She’s a little shy so I’m blurring out her face. This was our first official date at Super Loco@Customs House!

One thing we discovered as a couple during the pandemic was, though there were ways to spend time as a couple, especially for the first few months of dating. It was easy to get carried away, and it seemed like every moment we spent together, regardless of what we were actually doing, was all sunshine and rainbows. It’s called the honeymoon period for a reason!

Eventually, we realised that we needed to be more intentional about spending time together. Especially since dating is a preparation stage before marriage, to live happily ever after together, which was something both of us wanted to work towards. Not that we immediately proposed it, but the course of dating would help us foresee if we could spend the rest of our lives together.

A lovely day we spent at ECP for her birthday last year

It was then that we realised, dating during a pandemic can be a bit of a challenge!

Normal activities like going out for a meal required more planning than usual. Even visiting certain attractions, required weeks, and sometimes even a month of advance booking! This forced us to think of more creative ways to spend time together, while still getting to know each other.

We decided on making our online conversations more intentional. During weeks that we couldn’t meet, we tried to make sure that our calls were focused and ‘planned’. That meant we asked each other specific questions about how the week went, like whether there were things we were excited or worried about. At the start, it did feel slightly forced and awkward. But looking back, these weekly check-ins have been a real blessing to our growth as a couple.

Now my girlfriend doesn’t enjoy these (sadly T.T), but I’ve found some online group games that could help us spend some quality time getting to know each other. Some examples are The Jackbox Party Pack series is a great one to start with. Codewords is another surprisingly fun game I discovered over the lockdown period – be sure to try out the game mode! It’ll definitely be a hilarious opportunity for you to figure out how your partner’s logic works. So yes, I’ll be spending the rest of 2021 trying to convince her to play with me! 😅

And of course, we are planning to spend our SingapoRediscover vouchers as soon as possible! I’ve come across a great link with a wide variety of suggestions on how we can spend the vouchers! As of now, we’re thinking of checking out the Zoo and the Night Safari!

I’m not sure what the future holds for us this year, but I’m looking forward to brainstorming with her on more creative ways to better know and care for each other!

We’re still a very young couple with a long way to go 😊

If you have any suggestions on creative date ideas, share them in the comments section below!

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