31 July 2019, by Flora Isabelle
Typing the title kinda scares me.
I mean, obviously I know that Nate is turning 2 – hence the title – but WHAT DID YOU MEAN BY HE’S TURNING 2?!
Wasn’t he born like… yesterday?! Somebody tell me where has my baby gone!
But yes, with Nate turning 2 in end August, it would also mean I’ve survived 24 months of motherhood. So here’s my way of living to tell the tale.
- Whoever said “sleep when the baby sleeps” was obviously lying.
Either that or he/she never had to pump, eat, use the bathroom, reply messages, surf Instagram or just, you know… breathe.
- There will be days when your child seems like the sweetest thing in the world and other days which leaves you questioning your own existence in this universe.
- There will also be days where your baby eats like a champ and days where all he’s eaten is a grand total of two strawberries.
I’ve since learnt to let it go.
- Your kid will put everything – and I really mean EVERYTHING – in his mouth.
Let it go.
- If you haven’t already guessed, “let it go” is now my mantra to almost everything – I could have totally turned into Elsa.
- Every child is different.
Speak to your friends and commiserate but don’t compare.
- Working + motherhood is a lethal combination but it can be done.
- Division of labour (be it with your spouse, helper or caregiver) is a must.
Do not try to do everything by yourself.
- Taking care of yourself is necessary in order to care for your child.
- Having kids may radically change your ambitions.
- There will be some things that you simply cannot do when you become a mother to a young child.
But trust that life will have its way of making things happen for you some day.
- Kids fall sick.
They are kids after all.
- This too shall pass.
- Pre-school is important but it’s important to move at your child’s pace.
There is nothing wrong with being a pre-nursery dropout.
- They will learn how to spell and count eventually.
- But they may never get to play so heartily at the playground if you don’t let them do so now.
- Outdoor play is SO important (especially if you want them to “knock out” automatically by bedtime).
- It’s okay to not be ‘okay’.
There will be some storms to weather and there’s nothing wrong with asking for help along the way.
- Trust your instincts.
They are called motherly instincts for a reason.
- Be present.
Moments with your child are best captured with your eyes and company; not with the camera.
- Kids are humans too.
Don’t brush their emotions and tantrums aside. Try to see things from their perspective and understand what they have trouble articulating.
- Having more kids is my husband and my decision – not my parents, not my friends and certainly not the random Aunty I bumped into in the lift.
- You’re a mum FOR LIFE.
- But you’ll survive; somehow, some way, you will!