6 June 2017, by Nicholas Quek
Hello! I’m Nicholas, and as of May 2017, I am 21 years of age, unemployed and most definitely single.
I’m currently studying in Yale-NUS, and have been enjoying the excitement and energy that comes with college. Learning, applying, re-learning, discussing – there’s not much else I’d rather be doing. Of course, with college comes the prospect of romance (or the prospect of watching your friends’ romances). I’ve been single my entire life, and my parents have grown in their concern for my marital status. ‘College is a good time to explore’, ‘Year 1 and 2 got a lot of time, use it!’, ‘If you don’t date now by Year 3 all the good ones attached already!’. As of Year 1 Semester 1, I am still single.
I haven’t always been able to have such amicable conversations with my parents. I went through an extended teenage rebellion phase that lasted all the way through JC. We would argue and fight constantly, and it was only recently that we managed to reconcile and come to terms with one another. My own experience showed me the importance of parent-child relationships, and the need for constant, clear and effective communication between parent and child. The idea of fatherhood, and what it means to be a good son are topics that have peaked my interest due to my struggle in these areas.
At this point in time, however, my own parenting experience is a small speck on the horizon. Taking care of my 2 younger siblings will suffice for now.