18 May 2015, by Tan Li Lin

Destiny’s Child(ren)

Ronald and I recently visited a Ba Zi Master to have our ‘destiny’ charts deciphered. Boy, were we in for a shock.

I’ve had Feng Shui friends do casual readings for me before, but this was the first time Ronald and I were going to engage a Master to do it, in a 1-to-1 consultation.

Our life now is pretty different from just 3 years ago – marriage, financial commitments, changing family dynamics, health and with us both running businesses, we wanted to seek assurance in planning for our family and future. Engaging some expert views will help us understand what our next life phase might look like (‘might’ because while we don’t subscribe to readings blindly, we do consider the energetic links that influence our paths).

The process looked like this –

1. Set a day/time with the Ba Zi Master. He/She will ask for your birth date and time.

2. Turn up with a clear idea of WHAT specifically we wanted to know. It was useful to prepare questions. This helped to shape the focus of the session since we both had 1 hour each. This focus then allows precise discussions and take-away actions.

3. Sit down with the Master and share what you’re interested to understand. He/She will then take you through your reading and ask questions along the way.

Ron and I inquired about our businesses, and got a confirmation of our innate strengths that we should be utilizing. But interestingly the conversation shifted to children:

(in mandarin)

Me: “Um, speaking of that… when might we expect to have children?”

BZM: *scrolls through our reports looking for synchronizing dates *

“Look here – Ronald’s charts show that possibility this year…. but yours doesn’t.”

Me: “What! That doesn’t mean anything right?”

(I get ignored)

BZM: “2018”

Me: “Ahhh… okay.”

*phew* Just as we had planned actually.

Issit a boy or a girl?!!”

(I get panicky. I can’t shake the feeling that I might get a boy, which immediately brings to mind post-hurricane disaster scenes in the house, and me with disheveled hair and aunty clothes chasing after him shrieking at the top of my voice.)

BZM: “Hmm… it’s…. likely.. a girl.”

Me: *phew*

“So….. how many kids would we have?”

BZM: “Well…”

*scrolls through charts*


*still counting*

“.. 6 children.”

Me: “What!?!”

BZM: “For Ronald… 3 children.”


BZM: *bursts out laughing*

“No. It doesn’t work that way. You take the average of both. In this case then..”

Me: “3.5?!!!”

BZM: “4”

Me: *turns to Ronald, nervous laughter*

“Harharhar…. wouldn’t wanna baby with 2 heads there…”

All this while, Ronald remains quiet, with a stupid grin on his face.

Am not sure if he’s stonewalling or if he’s openly embracing the idea.

I guess only time will tell if I can shoot out 4 by 40.. wow. That’s 1 kid every 1.5years. Some friends laugh and say, maybe all 4 will come out at the same time.


Well, Lao Tzu did say,

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like”

Oh boy.


Lin Tan is an Entrepreneur and an Executive Coach who dedicates more time to making society a better place over making babies (for now). Follow her blog on www.maybebaby.sg/blog and journey with her as she embarks on all things ‘life after 30′.

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