4 February 2015, by Tan Yi Lin
Last week, I went for my 20th-week detailed scan. I’m happy to share that our baby girl is growing well and on track for her expected arrival in mid-June.
After the scan, I revisited my old blog entries where I wrote about the 20th-week scans when I was pregnant with Coco and Claire. Given how awful my memory is nowadays, it’s really nice to have these old entries to fall back on to remember our parenthood journey in the last 5 years. It makes the effort that goes into maintaining this blog really worth it.
Reading my entries on pregnancy back in 2011, 2012 and 2013, I find some aspects of my third pregnancy experience so familiar and others, totally new. Friends comment, “Third time round for you – you probably know what exactly to expect already!”
Well, not quite. Like all mothers would tell you, every pregnancy is different. With the first, everything was new and amazing. Then, there’s a certain familiarity as you experience pregnancy the second time – and it’s just as amazing. With the third – and probably my last – pregnancy, it feels bittersweet that I will never experience my body in this gestational state again and for that reason, I’m deeply appreciative and still very amazed at how nature is able to bring forth life from within me.
To commemorate the halfway mark for this pregnancy, here’s a rundown of the familiar and the new in this ongoing journey to parenthood.
1. Re-experiencing the debilitating first-trimester fatigue and hunger pangs.
2. Welcoming back pregnancy boobs (especially appreciated for boobs worn by breastfeeding *sob*) and maternity wear (great excuse to wear leggings to work!)
3. Baby’s movements – savouring the tiny punches, jabs and kicks within.
4. Falling sleep to the steady rhythm of that tok-tok-tok thing.
5. Enjoying the deep breathing and stretches during pre-natal yoga class (although for no.3, this now refers to the instructor modifying the moves for me during lunch-time yoga in the office sports hall instead of shelling out $$ for pre-natal yoga sessions in a private studio like what I did during the first pregnancy!)
1. Puking throughout the day in the car, in the office and at home. “Morning sickness” is such a misnomer. I’m just glad that this over.
2. Chicken cravings – chicken rice, chicken porridge, chicken nuggets, chicken cutlets, chicken burgers, fried chicken. Does this baby eat anything else?!
3. Old bones. Age has caught up with me and I lug my pregnant butt around just trying to keep up with the girls’ constant demands to “Come here / go there/ stand up / sit down, mummy!” Whatever has happened to leisurely baby showers and blissful babymoons?
4. A 20th-week scan that took all of 15 minutes. We had never before had such an efficient experience, especially with Claire.
5. A winter holiday while pregnant with 2 kids in tow. This very week. WISH US LUCK.
In writing this entry and looking back on my blog here on Maybebaby, I have come to realise that throughout 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014 and now 2015, I have spent a part of EVERY YEAR being pregnant. If anyone had told be during our IVF journey that this would be my life, it would have been inconceivable (quite literally) to me back then. I would have laughed in their faces. And not quite politely too.
No wonder colleagues gape and exclaim, “You’re pregnant? AGAIN?!?!” when they bump into me with my bump around the office. Their reaction kinda makes me feel like a sow but now that I think about it, I don’t quite blame them for reacting that way.
On the contrary, I’m very grateful that things are this way. So to couples trying hard for a baby, don’t give up. Pregnancy and parenthood may seem out of reach at present, but they aren’t completely inconceivable.