28 January 2015, by Tan Li Lin
As newly-weds, it is difficult to get quiet time away.
Even though Ronald and I both work from home and spend 3/4 of the day together, we hardly get any privacy of our own. We currently stay with my parents, and my siblings.. and my brother in law.. and two nieces aptly named ‘Drama & Destruction’… and a helper who potters around us the whole day.
Believe it or not, my room is all glass and the blinds don’t help. Yes, you can see right THROUGH it. My floor is made from wood (I’m relegated to the attic) and everyone can, literally, hear a pin drop. We fall asleep to crying kids, and we wake up to “GOOD MORRRRNIINNGGG!!!!!” squeals at 7am.
8 adults + 2 kids = A farm on quiet days, a mad house on others.
Recently too, we’ve stopped staying over at his parent’s place, because we could never get restful sleep. The double twin bed is old and sunken (I can feel myself tilting at a degree!!) and the thin walls means I stay awake at night listening to all sorts of noises from taxis, to loud conversations, to slamming doors and busy people moving chairs around. His mom forgets he’s no longer a teenager and frequently bursts into the room excitedly to chat with him. Every time she does that I bolt upright from the bed because it’s so embarrassing to be caught sprawling on her son’s bed.
All we long for is some quiet, undisturbed couple time.
In our dating years, we’d often go on staycations for, erm, obvious reasons. However since we got married, our financial priority shifted towards saving for our house and our future.
Every other month I’d spark the idea of spending a weekend away, only to kill my own mood by thinking about how that money could be better spent. Overtime, it seemed like we put our romance and intimacy on hold for a more practical reasons. It’s like, we almost forgot the joy and point of indulging in sacred INTIMATE couple time, which sets the stage for many meaningful relationship moments, including baby-making efforts.
This January, we finally spent some time away from the world. Our romantic staycation weekend getaway at Village Hotel Changi was fantastic. It felt like a prolonged date that stretched across a good 24 hours with no disturbances. I had Ronald all to myself during the staycation (no work came between us) and that put me in such a good mood I didn’t even mind if he was still on that mobile game from time to time… I just had to make sure I kept this hands busy enough.
What I really liked about Village Hotel Changi and the rustic Changi neighbourhood is how peaceful… and windy it is. There’s something about the constant wind that relaxes you and puts you in a carefree mood. There are no maddening crowds to push or shove through, no one gets in your way, no one is screaming or talking too loudly, or blocking the way because they are glued to their phone. Take yourself away from all that, and it does wonders to your soul, energy… and s** life.
Now, THAT SAID, look out for my upcoming blog post on www.maybebaby.com, covering our deliciously quiet (refreshing!!) staycation at Village Hotel Changi.
It wasn’t quite what I would have expected it to be, and I can’t wait to share that all with you. Ronald and I came back energized from just indulging in OUR world. I hope it helps you decide to spend a quiet, intimate weekend with your other half, especially with Valentine’s Day coming soon (nudge nudge)!
The staycation plan – get ready to indulge in each other.
Put your man in the mood… by dragging him away for a quiet weekend at Changi. He’ll have nothing else to focus on but you. Muahaha.
Lin Tan is an Entrepreneur and an Executive Coach who dedicates more time to making society a better place over making babies (for now). Follow her blog on ilovechildren.sg/blog and journey with her as she embarks on all things ‘life after 30′.