30 April 2014, by Evelyn Tan
This year, we celebrate our 10th year of married life! While it may seem like it’s not such a big deal to some (I’ve checked, it’s only accorded ‘tin/aluminum’ status, nothing near the silver and gold status for 25 and 50 years) we think it is still a milestone for our relationship and family because it has hit a double digit for the first time!
The week before our anniversary date, Darren came to me one morning and asked me if I would like to fly away for a short break to celebrate our anniversary. Immediately, being already in the ‘Mother – mode’ that morning, I looked at him horrified, and asked if he has already indeed made arrangements. Just four months into breastfeeding, Elliott would have another two more months to go before he could start to be weaned and I really didn’t fancy being a cow on our anniversary vacation! Thankfully, with 16 years of couple-hood chemistry between us, he hasn’t and so I asked for this holiday to be shelved till next year instead 😉
But the question remains, how then do we celebrate? Darren really wants to plan something memorable he says but we are ‘grounded’ for now.
So I suggest maybe we’ll celebrate it over dinner together at the most expensive buffet spread in town (I am the buffet lover here — a little bit of everything helps the waist line stay little while attempting to satisfy the abyss of insatiable gluttony) We could enjoy each others’ company over candlelight without the distraction of our children and still have a great celebration, right? After all, the whole idea is to just spend time together and celebrate the fact that we have made it through these 10 years, so it really doesn’t matter how we do it.
Unfortunately, we realised later that we couldn’t park the children with my mum that day because she had swimming classes later in the evening and Darren’s dad was away. Ok, so we say we’d do it the following day but then Darren remembered he has work! …sigh… so how did the day finally go?
We ended up having dinner at a pizzeria at Sentosa where we were wedded, with kids (of course) — all four in tow; enjoyed a beautiful sunset by the beach and ended off with candies for all from Candylicious! (Hey, who is celebrating here?)
Romantic? Hardly, I would say. But both Darren and I had to agree that it was the most meaningful way to celebrate our Big Day: we were back at the place where it all started — Sentosa. Plus, we were with the dearest people and they were the culmination of our last 10 years of being together, what more can we ask for ? Anyway, that’s married life with kids for you, isn’t it? You can never know what to expect (for better or worse), even for an anniversary.