22 November 2013, by Mandy Loh
I just realised I had never updated everyone that after about 3 weeks of potty training in July, we had put the entire thing on hold, because it just wasn’t progressing well. He was resistant to going to the toilet at regular intervals, and ended up having so many accidents that we concluded he probably wasn’t ready yet.
So we took a break for a couple of months until now. In fact, it was at a parent-teacher meeting just 2 days ago, that his playschool teacher suggested that we tried potty training again. I was a bit hesitant, as the previous experience had been rather challenging, to say the least, but I agreed that it was worth a shot now that Cristan is older and probably able to understand what was required of him better.
There had also been gradual signs that he was ready to try again. Although we went back to pull-up diapers, we kept encouraging him to go to the toilet, especially to poo-poo. The good thing is, about 80% of the time, he would be able to let us know in advance that he needed to poo. It was the pee that had been very tricky. Recently however, he was able to tell me he needed to pee, and actually pulled down his pants and diapers, sit on his potty, and pee, all on his own! I was amazed! Granted, it had only happened twice, but I take it as a very good sign that he’s finally “getting it”.
And so, yesterday morning I told Cristan we were ready to go back to big-boy underpants, packed tons of extra underpants and shorts in his school bag, and sent him off to school without diapers! When I picked him up, the teacher was beaming as she told me the wonderful news that Cristan did not have any accidents at all! In fact, he even managed to hold his pee for a while (as the toilet was occupied when he needed to go) and still successfully peed in the toilet! Hooray! I almost did a happy dance right there and then!
Unfortunately, the happiness was short-lived. Almost immediately after we got home, Cristan had an accident! But oh well, I suppose this is part and parcel of potty training. There will be accidents along the way. I just have to grit my teeth and be prepared for some more mopping and wiping in the days to come.
To alleviate my own anxiety, I’ve decided that in addition to naps and night-time sleep, I would also put him in diapers during longer car rides. It just seems like a smarter thing to do than constantly worrying about whether he would have an accident in his car seat. Besides, when you’re stuck in a traffic jam, it really isn’t the toddler’s fault that he cannot hold his pee in for long!
But now the question is, should I put him in diapers when he attends a kiddy birthday party this weekend? I’m almost certain that he would have an accident or two when he’s engrossed in play. Or during his school’s Christmas concert next week? Perhaps stage fright would trigger an accident right in the middle of his performance. Yet if we keep putting him in diapers, he’d get confused and probably stall the potty training process. So what shall I do? Advice and tips most welcome!