30 July 2013, by Mandy Loh
Alright everybody! It’s time for a big announcement!
WE’RE EXPECTING! Doubbles (our nickname for #2 in-utero) is scheduled to join our little family sometime in February next year!
As you all know, we’ve been trying to conceive since receiving the all-clear from my blighted ovum miscarriage. We’re really thankful to be blessed with this pregnancy shortly after the long-drawn depressive episode we had gone through.
But to be honest, this time round, I was a bit more cautious about announcing the good news. I’m 11 weeks along now, almost nearing the end of the first trimester, and have only told family and close friends so far. Perhaps its the sobering effect of knowing how fragile early pregnancy can be, that had prevented me from shouting it out from the rooftop (which I had done with my first pregnancy, haha!)
This time round, the pregnancy is also a little less enjoyable – I’m battling slight nausea and extreme lethargy almost everyday. Add a highly energetic toddler into the mix and each day just becomes rather challenging. Don’t get me wrong, I’m thrilled to be expecting, but it’s just a bit tough for me at the moment. I’m fervently hoping that things get better in the next trimester!
I’ll definitely be sharing more about how things develop in my upcoming blog posts, but for now, I thought I’d share some tips with folks who are also trying to conceive. While Cristan came as a surprise for us, we were a bit more intentional with Doubbles. So when we were trying, I read up about fertility indicators, or the signs of ovulation, to know when was the “optimum” time for conception. It was rather eye-opening for me, and I suppose it kinda worked, so I’m sharing it with you all!
[Disclaimer: Ok folks, I’m going to go into details about a woman’s bodily fluids. If that is too much information for you (men), perhaps you should stop reading now. :)]
In a nutshell, the window for baby-making is five days before ovulation until the day of ovulation. This is because sperm can remain viable for up to five days after intercourse, whereas the egg, once released from the ovary, has to be fertilised within 24 hours. Thus, it becomes important to be able to predict when ovulation occurs.
Amazingly, the body is communicating to us women all the time, and we just have to tune in! Basically, we have to be aware of the changes in our cervical mucus that is produced by the body. Immediately after menstruation, hardly any cervical mucus would be produced. As you approach ovulation, estrogen levels will rise, and so will the volume of cervical mucus. The texture is also a tell-tale sign: it would be clear, slippery and stretchy, somewhat like raw egg white. And that’s when you and your man should do the mattress mambo!
This knowledge is most useful for women like me, who do not have regular 28-day cycles, so calculation of ovulation is not as straightforward as counting the number of days from the last menstrual period. (In fact, my cycles tend to fluctuate wildly, so it is really quite a miracle that we conceived so easily!) Well, I hope this little tip comes in useful for people out there who are trying to start a family. All the best and have fun in the process!