12 October 2011, by Tracy Tan
In the process of getting my house in order, I realized something interesting…when I asked my friends if a 55-inch TV would be too big for my living room, I got differing replies from two camps of people. The first camp answered consistently: “oh no no no…why do u need such a big tv for? It’s way too big. The biggest you should get is a 47-inch tv for your small living room.” I kinda agree with the first camp.
The second camp of people however gave quite a different response (but still as consistent): “55-inch…yah sounds good. Maybe can even consider 60-inch tv.” My response to this was, “Don’t you think it’s too big? I mean my living room is pretty small.” This group of people would then reply nonchalantly,”Trust me, it can never be too big.”
After a few repeated incidents with the exact same responses, my mind had a de ju vu flashback. I thought to myself — those words sound freakishly familiar; I have said those words at one point in time before! “Trust me, it can never be too big”. Before you let your minds go astray, let me put some context to this statement — I was talking about diamonds! Back then, I would recall my guy friends passing comments like “your fingers are so petite maybe you shouldn’t get too big of a diamond ring.” And my standard response would be — “oh honey, it can never be too big”.
If you haven’t guessed it by now, the first camp of people that I spoke with were all women! The second camp were all men! And they all replied in the same fashion, despite having disparate and diverse backgrounds. I found this pretty interesting, so it became a social experiment. I posed the same question to more than 30 people. 15 women and 15 men. And the same uniform responses emerged each time, separated according to gender. I derived this conclusion — the size of a television can never be too big to men. Women, however disagree. Conversely, the size of a diamond, to women are like televisions to men — it can never be too big. Men, however disagree. The most important takeaway I had though, was that it doesn’t matter whether you agree or disagree. Too big a television may hurt your eyes, and yet, too big a diamond could potentially hurt your eyes too (what with all its glitter and sparkle..)! But at the end of the day, if these objects make you happy and enhance your lives, why not? My dad always taught me that objects should never take the central stage in your life, if they do — it means that they have taken control of you. This does not mean however that you should not try to derive a healthy amount of enjoyment from the things that you own. He would constantly remind me never to buy something that I would get hysterically emotional over if something were to happen to it. The best lesson I learnt was this, people always come before things.
So guess the size of the TV I got? Bear in mind my husband-to-be is not in the country and since I was the one getting the house ready, I got to make the final decisions. So I could have gotten a TV of any size. Well, after much deliberation, I finally settled on a 55-inch TV. You see, my husband-to-be belongs to the second camp. And like I said, people always come before things.