30 March 2011, by Jaime Teo
The one year milestone has got to be the most important milestone for the simple reason that we all survived it’s the first. I cannot enough emphasize the changes of the first year, both for baby and parents.
The physical growth of a baby in their first year is simply astounding. From a limp lump on the cot, to a squirmy slug ball of nonstop action that can sit/stand/walk, and even understand simple instructions. It’s a big thing! We see her drunken staggers baby steps get stronger and surer on a daily basis. She shows us how much she understands when we teach her a word like “touch” and join that word to things around her. It is a slow but fulfilling process, seeing her little discoveries everyday. It is these little joys that makes staying at home with her worthwhile =)
As parents, this first year has been eye opening to say the least. Who would have known that we had these reservoirs of patience, persistence and ability to survive on so little sleep? It certainly made me appreciate and admire more, the man I married…. And it has also changed our priorities in life as well as our lifestyle (in bed at 10pm and up at 6am before Renee? Never, if there’s no work!).
So for the reasons above, I have been planning her first birthday in my head for the last half year awhile… Initially, my plan was to invite all our friends and family for a big do. I even planned where the catered food was going to be put, where our guests were going to hang out in our new house and who was going to be called upon to do what. (Hey, learning how to delegate is a big lesson in parenting!).
Then in the last few weeks, I’ve been re-thinking it. Realistically speaking, she isn’t going to remember her first birthday. I know I didn’t. I’ve only got this photograph to show for it:
To be honest, her first birthday celebration is really more for us. Her 2nd birthday can be frivolous and she’ll probably be able to tell me what she wants to do by her 3rd. But her first? I really want a meaningful first birthday for her.
A question popped in my head the other day – What is the biggest revelation of my first year as a mother?
The answer that came to me, probably brought to the forefront of my mind what with all the calamities around the world was….. Family.
They are the people you have no choice about. They are the people who will help you grow into your own person. They are the people you are forever tied to in blood.
We decided that our main ‘do’ will be something with only our immediate family… Dan suggested chartering a yacht for a coupla hours – It’s definitely different and should be fun for children and adults alike unless half of us get seasick
I’m thinking Renee’s main “First Birthday” picture will have her immediate family around her so that every time she sees that picture, she will be reminded that she was surrounded by people who loves her; so that every time she sees that picture, she will know who her family is.
Feeling very pleased with the plan and keeping our fingers crossed for good weather this weekend =)