"It’s more fun to sort out things like housing and finances together as a couple, as that’s what makes memories and builds the relationship."
Christina and I got married in 2015, when we were 25 and 24 respectively.
It’s relatively rare for couples in Singapore to tie the knot at such a young age – generally, people want to get their lives in order first before settling down. However, I actually think that it’s more fun to sort out things like housing and finances together as a couple, as that’s what makes memories and builds the relationship.
We relocated to the US for work shortly after getting married, and that’s where we conceived our first child, Jacob. We didn’t particularly plan on raising a family overseas, but we also didn’t want to wait too long before having children either.
Jacob was born in the US, and we found the standard of care there to be excellent; for instance, the nurses were genuinely concerned about their patients’ wellbeing during the labour process. However, after childbirth, caregiving was primarily under the purview of the husband and family.
After Jacob was born, Christina’s mother flew over and helped us out for a month, but otherwise, Google was our best friend most of the time! When we moved back to Singapore, we conceived our second child, Clara, who is now two months old.
The labour process was a different story in Singapore, where nurses often seem to be going through the motion – administering the right jabs and doses at stipulated times – with less concern about the patients’ state of mind. However, the level of post-childbirth care was excellent here.
At the end of the day, you shouldn’t let circumstances such as age and career dictate what your life stage should entail – be it getting married or having children. Instead, you should determine your own timeline and work to make it happen.