Veronica and I aren’t your typical couple: I am Sikh, while she is Chinese. We have known each other since our days in secondary school; back then, little did we guess that we would eventually get married!
Interracial marriages aren’t very common in Singapore because of traditions and beliefs. However, we are lucky that our friends and loved ones have supported our relationship from the very start. Our parents have never caused any conflicts; likewise, our friends were very supportive when they discovered that we were going out as a couple.
We tied the knot after about two years, and our wedding was similarly smooth sailing. We respect each other’s customs, so we went to a Sikh temple for morning rites, before carrying out a Chinese tea ceremony. This was followed by a simple buffet lunch with the people who mean the most to us.
We definitely hope for at least two kids in future, when the time is right. We want to share our individual cultures with them; we envision giving them both a Sikh and a Chinese upbringing. However, we would like them to learn Mandarin as their second language, as that’s a more useful skill to have!
We feel that love transcends race and religion. While we have been lucky, we also understand that sometimes, the going can get tough when it comes to an interracial relationship. At the end of the day, it also depends on how much you’re willing to sacrifice for love.