We were getting very comfortable, too comfortable. Sean, our first born was already four when my wife, Huiling, brought up the topic of having a second child. I brushed her aside with a typical response "let nature take its course". Without surprise, my wife did not conceive when Sean turned five. Again, she raised the topic and I said to her "let's wait another year". We registered Sean for Primary 1 when he turned six and there were no signs of him becoming a big brother. That was when Huiling said, "It's now or never! We need to plan!"