I gave up my man cave


It is every man’s dream to have their very own man cave. I envisioned mine to house a large projection screen, a comfortable sofa bed, nice soft rug, a mini fridge and a collection of video games and where I could Netflix and chill… but then… my dream zoomed pass and I had to make the wiser decision, to give up my man cave for…


So, I was 22 and Chelsea was 20 when we started dating. We entered into this relationship with marriage in mind and six years later, we tied the knot.

We travelled around Europe, mainly Greece, Croatia and Italy for our honeymoon because we wanted to explore new places together.

Our plan was to have children after a year of marriage, so it caught us off guard when we conceived just two months after our wedding!

I was elated but suddenly, it dawned on me that I was going to be a father. The first question: “Do I really need to give up my man cave?” Then other questions followed: “Am I emotionally ready? What about finances?”

As a daddy-to-be, I wised-up and turned the ‘cave’ into a baby’s room. It’s a ‘small’ price to pay and I hope one day, I’ll get my cave back!

In Chelsea’s first trimester, she suffered fatigue and slept so much that I started to worry. Strangely, Asian and oily food made her nauseous. Her second trimester was better as she was more energetic.

Her tummy started to show and the best part, she was treated like a princess by me! But as she progressed into her third trimester, she felt unexplainable pain in her lower back and nothing she or I did seemed to help. I’m thankful it went away after she delivered Thad.

It was tough to manage both work and meeting her daily needs. But I thank our parents for the tremendous support throughout the process. It was because of them that I was able to set aside time to make dinner for Chelsea every night; to make sure she got proper nutrition.

Chelsea’s blood pressure during the pregnancy was usually between 100 and 120, but during our 36-week check-up, the gynae noticed her blood pressure rose to 140!

The gynae decided to do a blood test and sent her home. But the same evening, the gynae called and advised Chelsea to be warded immediately for a possible C-Section as she was showing signs of pre-eclampsia*.

We tried our best to opt for a natural birth but after countless blood tests, the baby’s heart rate started to drop as the contractions got more intense. An emergency C-Section was done immediately and Thaddeus was born on 3 July at 10.59pm.

Going through a C-Section was no easy feat and I have great respect for all women who have gone through this, also for those who deliver naturally. Sometimes, the recovery is long and painful. *Salute*

Parenthood – it is hard and tiring, but at the same time rewarding and fun; filled with much happiness and laughter.

To Chelsea, thank you for going through this for me and making our family a threesome. 

* Pre-eclampsia is a pregnancy complication characterised by high blood pressure and signs of damage to another organ system, most often the liver and kidneys. Pre-eclampsia usually begins after 20 weeks of pregnancy in women whose blood pressure had been normal.

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